When you become a mom you learn how to master things that you’ve never done before – change a dirty diaper while using only one wipe, nurse while cooking dinner, and get any stain known to man out of your child’s (and your) wardrobe.
But there is one thing that becoming a mom has actually caused me to un-master.
The management of my hair.
Pre-baby, I’d wake up every morning, take a shower, and style my hair for about 20-25 minutes – an attempt to keep it tame by blow-drying, using a nuclear hot flat iron and lots of styling products. Now with a little one running around, there just isn’t enough time to spend on something so…so… all about me. If I get time to myself, I’d rather spend it blogging :-), jogging at the gym, or enjoying much-needed time alone with God. Hair styling priorities are a thing of the past.
The problem, however, is that I haven’t figured out how to style my hair in less than 5 minutes. If I let it simply air dry, I’m pretty sure I’d have no friends and my family would insist on an intervention. And doing nothing to it puts me at risk of serious hair expansion – we’re talking Clown-Wig-Huge here – especially since I live in Florida.
Last night when I got out of the shower, though, I had an idea for my hair that could be done in 5 minutes and inspire a really sweet and intimate moment with my hubby at the same time!
I asked Ryan if he would braid my hair for me.
And he did.
(His sister used to pretend that he was a little sister instead of a little brother – thank you Christen!). 🙂
It was really nice having the love of my life braid my hair. If an audience had been watching, I’m pretty sure they would have applauded Ryan’s amazing hair-styling abilities!
It may sound like an odd and unbelievable thing to do and most men would probably not want others to know that they play with hair or even know how to braid (Ryan has requested that all of my readers take a vow of silence on his special hidden talent), but men playing with their spouse’s hair has been around for awhile…
My grandma, or Mom-Mom, as we like to call her, used to have hair down to her waist. She always wore it up in a big beehive for most of her married life. When she was in her sixties, Woman’s Day magazine contacted her and asked her if she wanted to get a makeover (in other words, they wanted to know if she was interested in ditching the beehive). She agreed! The magazine flew her and my Pop-Pop to New York where she got the best styling treatment available. When interviewed about his favorite thing about the makeover process, my Pop-Pop responded confidently with, “I loved it when she took down her hair before they cut it and I got to run my hands through it.”
Isn’t that the sweetest?
Even the Bible speaks of this loving gesture… Song of Solomon tells his beloved that her hair is like “royal tapestry” and that he is held “captive” by her “tresses” (7:5).
I think that’s what my Pop-Pop was thinking as he stroked my Mom-Mom’s hair.
And I’m pretty sure that Ryan thinks that about my hair too – he doesn’t see my “tresses” as the high-maintenance-horrifying-bother I do (even though pulling my “royal tapestry” out of the shower drain is not his favorite activity). But I am confident in his love for every part of me – Afro and all.
I think for Christmas this year I’m going to ask Ryan if he’ll learn how to French braid. 🙂
Ladies, it’s a bit strange, I know, but surprise your hubby – reach over and play with his hair. Use your fingers to work a nice massage into his scalp. He’ll love it! Take advice from Song of Solomon 5:11 – “His head is purest gold; his hair is wavy and black as raven,” and tell your husband sexy words about his hair. 🙂 And then ask if he’ll do the same for you. See what happens!! Either you’ll end up doing a whole lot more than playing with each other’s hair, or you’ll end up with a big tangled knot and lots of giggles. Bottom line – have fun together exploring one another’s “tresses”!
Julie, I love it! You need to post photos of the finished product.
I had to stop paying for professional hair coloring when Jackson came home, so every three weeks Matt and I make a date to color my hair. We wait ’til the boys go to bed, turn on a Disney podcast and color away. 🙂
Love your blog. You are truly effervescent!
Happy Home Fairy
That is soooooo hilarious! I looooooooooooooove that your hubby dyes your hair for you! I’ll bet it’s the highlight of your week (haha, get it…highlight??? :-))!! Thanks for supporting me and my blog. YOU inspire ME!!! And it’s funny that you wrote to me about this particular one because I was thinking about you when I wrote the first paragraph – about mastering the one wipe diaper change…I think you facebook statused that awhile back… 🙂 Xoxo
LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! Pictures please!!! 🙂
Ummmm.. I was going to tell Angie about your website, but then I read this blog post, and now I’m not so sure!! Only kidding! This is great and now that I see it is not for men to read, I will pass along the website to Angie and let you moms have fun. (Tell Ryan that I have not sworn myself to silence and his new profession will be posted on the Sheridan House website soon!)
I like your hair and think it would be beautiful even if you didn’t blow dry it 🙂
My Ryan loves it when I massage his head–maybe I need to recruit him to start massaging mine 🙂
Love it – now you know why I always had the baseball cap on! Tell Ryan I will be happy to teach him how to French Braid 🙂 !
I am really enjoying reading your blog. Btw this is Tiffany douglas Nicholson from wa. Just wanted to let u know I’m a reader and am loving your blog. Ty for your beautiful words and honesty about your csection and how God is working in your heart as a new mom.
Huge hug and blessings to u Ryan and Noah!
And this one was just too funny!
Nothing like the kiddos to bring out the best pony-tail in all of us!
I just found your blog (love it) and am going a million posts back looking at your dating ideas…this one made me smile because just yesterday my husband braided my hair for me. It really meant the world to me and I kept thanking the Lord for my sweet and gentle husband. Thanks for sharing. We are blessed 🙂
Happy Home Fairy
Kristen, that is so funny! 🙂 I love it!!! And don’t go back too far… I didn’t really know what I was doing back then at the beginning – LOL! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!