Our sweet Great Grandmommy flew to Jesus on the morning of April 27, 2019. She died peacefully in her sleep.
The family gathered last Sunday in Grandmommy’s home one last time for a small and informal memorial service. With great grandkids, grandkids, and her own children and their spouses sprawled around the living room on floral couches and teal-colored carpet, we shared our favorite stories about this woman who left an enormous legacy of love, wisdom and faith.
After the service, we got to wander around the house and choose some of Grandmommy’s things that we wanted to take home with us.
While looking, I passed the kitchen where she hosted many Baking with Grandmommy dates and cooked countless meals for her family.
I sat at her desk, pulled open one of the drawers, and found a small notebook. Inside were handwritten prayers for her friends and family. Next to the answered prayers, she simply wrote “Thank you!”
Sitting in the same desk chair, I saw her computer. I was reminded of how Great Grandmommy loved to comment on my blog posts. I grabbed my phone and quickly began searching through old comments she had written, clinging to her words differently, knowing that they are precious treasures left behind. I wanted to share my favorite comment here today.
On a blog post where I was struggling with motherhood, she encouraged me with the following wisdom…
Dearest Julie, A very wise Godly man once told me (after my son’s antics at church), “They are the ones that grow up to be deacons and pillars of the church.” He was so right. Proverbs 22: 6 Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Just remember to be consistent and say what you mean and mean what you say. We learn line upon line and precept upon precept, Isaiah 28: 10. So. don’t get discouraged and keep praying and teaching and he will respond. After all, he has had a LOT to contend with in his short life. First he was the ONLY one and then he had to share you with Jet and all his health issues. I see from your blogs that you spend a lot of time with him so just keep on keeping on ! I think Grammy was wise in her disciplining the children. She would have them search the scriptures and find examples of why they should or shouldn’t do this or that. Of course, Noah is a little young for that but I wish I had used that when my boys were young. As I pray for your family , I will certainly keep this before the Lord. BTW, I remember my “preshus” angel Ryan being nothing but an angel who kept me laughing all the time. I know they were taught RESPECT, OBEDIENCE AND RESPONSIBILITY that has bode them well for all of their lives. They were also taught what the word “STOP’ meant “STOP” and whether it be before running into the street or during a tantrum, when they said “STOP” , the children knew to “STOP” or suffer the consequences pre determined. Personally, I am not against spanking (never in anger) when nothing else works. Never threaten to do something and not back it up. For instance, if you tell them you will throw them out the window if they do such and such and they disobey, you MUST throw them out a window ! So, be careful what you say and then DO IT !!! Another bit of advice is to NEVER embarrass them before their peers. Take them outside, away from everyone and discipline them alone. Make sure you have eye contact and they are paying attention to your instructions. These are just some of the musings of an old lady so feel free to discard some or all of them. Love you, Grandmommy I think you are doing a fabulous job as a parent so don’t be too hard on yourself ! God knows your heart!!
I love this simple summary of parenting >> Believe the best for your kids, spend time with them, respect them, say what you mean and mean what you say, provide loving boundaries, and try not to worry too much because God sees it all.
Great Grandmommy never did anything “great” by the world’s standards. She didn’t have a million Instagram followers or a big book deal with a major publisher. Her acts of kindness and generosity were never shared on a platform.
But quiet moments over freshly baked cookies and handwritten prayerful accounts of God’s goodness created a legacy that will forever impact this world.
“Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants.” Psalm 116:25