I don’t write much about the topic of marriage because I do not feel qualified!
We are not perfect by any means.
I am daily struggling to love and honor and serve my Happy Hubby in the selfless way I long to do.
But one thing the Happy Hubby and I have found along the way (and I blogged about it HERE) is the importance of appreciating each other.
Whenever I feel like things in our marriage are getting out of balance – like we are grumbling at one another or snipping at little things – I step back and assess: Have I thanked my man lately?
Because it’s just like the enemy to try to get us to focus on the things our spouse is not doing instead of celebrating the things they are.
Several months ago I felt the nudging of the Holy Spirit to be very specific in thanking the Happy Hubby.
So I wrote him an email.
Dear Big Hunny,
I just want you to know how thankful I am for you… You have been really blessing me lately (you always bless me, but even more so in the last several days…). I have sooo enjoyed your guitar worship at night before bed with the Happy Buddy… I am so grateful that you fed the Happy Baby last night and cleaned up the living room – including the fluffing of the pillows! I am thankful that you work so hard to provide for us… That you drive the Happy Buddy to school every day, and often are willing to bring him home, too. I am so thankful for your wisdom and patience with me as I fumble along on this journey of faith in trusting God with our boys… The way you loved on me and didn’t judge me for going on the internet the other night to try to diagnose our son and just reminding me that everything is going to be okay… your words are unbelievably reassuring to me.
Please know that all of these things have not gone unnoticed. I treasure them and thank God for you on a daily basis. You are my hero – my knight in shining armor and I love you to the moon and back!
Have a great morning at work. You are the best.
I totally wasn’t expecting him to write back, but a few hours later I received this response…
Aww, shucks. =) Thanks little hunny! I love you and appreciate you too– getting up constantly to feed or pump for the Happy Baby, letting me have friends over and play silly video games, putting up with me and my aversion to all decorative pillows everywhere, preparing meal calendars so we can have meals together at home for cheaper and healthier than we’d get anywhere else, doing laundry (including towels and sheets I would personally prefer to let disintegrate rather than wash), keeping up with the dishes, your pump-cleaning, and being the best mommy and LOVA this world has ever known…
Another thing I really appreciate about the Happy Hubby is his hilarious sense of humor!
What about you??
Could your marriage use a little extra affirmation today?
Here is a challenge for you to try – Send your Happy Hubby an email of appreciation right now.
And sweet friend, when you write your email, please try not to write it expecting a response. I was given a sweet blessing in those words the Happy Hubby wrote in return (that I pray will be the same for each one of you!!), but sometimes we must just do these things with the assurance that we have brought glory to God by choosing to cherish the men He has put in our lives.
Happy Hubby Email-ing! 🙂
Kimberly @ LearnCreateLove
I *love* this idea! Heading to my e-mail now. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Lyli @ 3dLessons4Life
I love that picture of you and your man. Great advice. I am off to type an e-mail… 🙂
Ahw! Can I just give all of u a great big hug?! 🙂 okay…. I’ll hug my hubby extra tonight. Thank u for your awesome post.
This is beyond adorable. I love that picture and I love the idea. Heading off to email my hubby now.
Thank you for allowing us into your life with the Happy Hubby. Love the Ebb and Flow between you both and the obvious care that he has for your Heart to answer you so quickly.
Thank you for reminding me to recognize the “good” in my marriage, especially when our lives are REALLY stressful right now! (we’re moving across the country in 2 weeks!) It is all too easy to let Satan mess with my head in regards to my marriage, hearing all the negative stuff. But through your post, you encouraged me to fight back and recognize and acknowledge the awesome man God put me with on this earth. ( and yes, I DID get a response back!)