Why I Loved My C-Section

why one lady loved her c-section. this is funny and great for anyone who struggles to be content with their birth story

**DISCLAIMER – Please know my heart in writing this post was not to make anyone feel bad or even to find my own healing at another person’s expense.  The goal of my blog has been (and always will be) to be grateful for the circumstances life hands me and praise God for them (even if they weren’t what I had in mind).  So, sweet reader, thanks for stopping by and I pray that this post gives you a fresh and light-hearted perspective on whatever journey God has you on. Xoxo**

I had a dream that I would give birth naturally.

I was going to do the whole thing with no medication.

I wanted the pain.

I wanted the nurses to yell at me during contractions.

I wanted to hear the doctor shouting, “I see the head!”

I wanted that feeling of sweet victory in the end.

But God had other plans (which you can read more about HERE).

So I surrendered every single one of my wants at His feet, knowing that His way is always better.

csection2We had our first required C-section on July 3, 2009.

As the years passed and with a second (somewhat traumatic) C-section, even though I know God is so, so good and I know that His plans are way higher and way greater than mine, I have still found the whole thing to be a bit of a struggle in my life.

The problem is that my flesh crawls with jealousy whenever one of my friends ends up with a perfect labor and perfect delivery and perfect baby.

And it really wrecks me if I know someone who has had a successful VBAC.

In my deepest, most ugliest parts, I sometimes hope that everyone will end up with a C-section just so that I can feel better about my own.

**I know.  You probably don’t want to read my blog anymore because now you know how awful I am!**

These thoughts of mine are not okay, people, and it is my responsibility to take them and capture them for Christ – to replace them with thoughts of gratitude and other ‘excellent, noble, and praiseworthy’ things (Philippians 4:8).

It is my heart’s desire is to give these sins over to God and to truly, truly find joy and contentment and healing and freedom in the story that He has written for me.

This post is an effort to do that.

And I hope it gives you a good giggle, too. :-)

Because today I am listing 11 awesome reasons why I think my required C-sections were pretty great.

Reason #11You have a plan.

This is so helpful for all us control freaks.  You know what to expect and when to expect it.  None of this baby’s-coming-in-the-backseat-of-the-car drama or waiting-around-playing-every-board-game-in-your-house business.  When people ask when your baby is due, you can respond with a confident smile and a precise date of arrival.

csectionReason #10 – You can look gorgeous for photos.

I loved that I could wake up on the morning of my surgery and put on a full face of make-up, knowing that it wouldn’t get messed up during delivery.  Sparkly eye shadow was a must!

Reason #9 – You don’t poop yourself on the delivery table.  

I hear this happens to some women when it comes time to push.  C-sections are much more dignified (if you don’t mind your organs being passed around – lol!).

Reason #8 – You get to pick your child’s birthday.

This was so fun.  We ended up being able to pick April 3rd for the Happy Baby so that both of our kids were born on the 3rd.  Easy to remember – which is good for me because I feel like each of my babies took a bit of my brain with them when they came out (and this does not speak well of how much of a brain I began with).

Reason #7 – You are guaranteed no pain during the event.

Not exactly the way it was when Eve was doing it, but think of it this way – Jesus came to release us from the curse.  Let the medicine be a reminder of that grace. :-)  But if you’re still wanting to be a hero, just go home without your pain meds.

Reason #6 – The scar turns your whole upper body into a giant smiley face.

Think about it…  The scar is the smile… Your belly button is the nose…  Albeit a saggy smile (as in my case because I exclusively pumped for 14 months), but It’s a happy reminder whenever I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror.

csection4Reason #5 – You have a really easy explanation of where babies come from without getting into the birds and the bees with your toddler.

Because I never do ANYTHING without a little person on my heals, the Happy Buddy has seen my scar on occasion and has asked about it.  It is pretty cool that I can tell him, “That is where you came out of my tummy, you cutie-patootie!  Now may I please use the potty in peace?!” :-)

Reason #4 – Your baby’s head won’t look like a football.

I hear babies born vaginally look kind of like a cone-head in the beginning.  Your baby gets to skip that part and go straight to rockin’ his perfectly-shaped skull.

Reason #3 – You have an awesome reason to get a good wax job.

Hey, I’m just sayin’.  If everyone and their brother is going to be seeing your hoo-ha in the OR, you better clean it up a bit (plus, they hand you a razor when you get to the hospital, so thinking ahead is a real timesaver).

Reason #2You don’t have to worry about urinary incontinence.

I hear that once you’ve pushed out a few babies the muscles down there can get a bit relaxed and therefore interfere with normal functions like peeing.  If you have a C-section, you never have to worry that the joke someone told in the break room is going to render you wet for the rest of the afternoon.  Go jump on that trampoline with your Happy Buddies!  No diapers for you, lady!

And the #1 reason I loved having a C-section is…

Your Happy Hubby is thankful for the preservation of your lady parts! {Wink wink!}

csection3I am NOT trying to convince you to have a C-section.  C-sections are major, super serious surgery and if I had had a choice (as I said at the beginning of this post), I would have TOTALLY embraced urinary incontinence and Kegels and pooping on a delivery table to have my babies naturally.  Maybe with an epidural (or 10 epidurals – ha!).

But I did not have a choice with either of my babies and I simply want to glorify God with the birthing stories I do have.

I want to be thankful for what He did instead of grumbly for what He didn’t.

I want to be obedient to His will, not mine.

Now those are some better wants than all the others at the beginning of this post.

Happy C-section-ing! :-)

“…in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

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68 thoughts on “Why I Loved My C-Section

  1. Thank you so much for this. I have so often felt the same way. The jealousy when others have a natural birth. My first baby was an emergency csection at 26 weeks and I have since had two more csections and my heart has been forever broken about it. My grandmother once said to me, not meaning to be hurtful but it was that I will never really know what its like to HAVE a baby because I have only had csections. You were able to make me laugh with this and remember that the whole point of pregnancy is to get a healthy baby by what ever means necessary.

  2. What a great blog! There is such a defeatist attitude when the nurse comes in to tell you that something has happened and you need a C-section. Thank you for your positive spin. I loved that I knew exactly what to expect after the first one. Freaking a few of my vaginal birth girlfriends out by being able to sit criss cross applesauce 2 days after surgery was sortof fun ;)

  3. Your honesty and wisdom is beautiful and profound!!! Love your sense of humor and grace through every situation God gives you. You are an inspiration.

  4. Thank you for your encouraging words. I am a single mom with a grown up kiddo. All during her growing up years, I hoped for a husband and more kids. I guess God had other plans. But, I am thankful my kiddo was/is happy and healthy. She is going to college and doing well. I am proud of her. God is so good!
    P.S. She was a c-section. :)

    • Thank you for this. God is good and I definitely trust Him. I’m due in September and might have to give birth through c-section. This really made me feel better about it all. Thank you!

  5. I love the smiley face reason! I never looked at my scar that way (always as a flaw) so that was not only hilarious but such a good way to look at it. Thanks for the post and I hope it was as helpful for you as it was for the rest of us who have had c-sections. :)

  6. Julie, thanks for posting this. I have been struggling with the fact that I had a c-section… Not what I wanted either, but this made me laugh and encouraged me that it’s ok and all part of God’s plan. His way of reminding me, not my will but His be done!

  7. Amen sister!! I had a c-section with our triplets and again with our singleton 18 months later:) no VBAC for me! We picked my grandpa’s birthday for her scheduled c-section! Blesses my mama so! I felt them move, roll and kick as I carried them…THAT was beautiful:)

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  8. Well, I for one want to thank you for making the decisions I made many moons ago seem all that much better. I didn’t get the chance to deliver naturally the 1st time but the second time was my choice. I always get OMG WHY? thats awful!!! The truth is it wasn’t so bad. (the labor well that was a whole other ball game!). Thank you again for putting it in such a good light!! God Bless you and your family!!!

  9. Hey Julie, I did get quite a chuckle out of this one! Your 11 reasons were so good you almost made me wish I had a csections! And on a very non-spiritual note, I’d love to know where you buy your fun glittery eye shadow. It makes me smile and I love the cheerfulness of it all. Thanks for pouring your heart out in your blogs. Although I haven’t written much, you have touched me greatly with the truth of God’s word, his grace, and His love that flows out of you as you share your life with us. I hope to get to MOM in the fall but as a homeschooling mom of three kids living in Weston, I feel like my schedule has become very busy in a wonderful way. Looking forward to your next blog update. Hugs, Caryn Tully

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  10. My friend sent me a link to this post, and it is totally what I needed to here today! I am having a scheduled c-section on Tuesday and have been struggling with the fact that I don’t get to have my natural delivery that I always pictured. This post made me laugh and reminded me that there are definitely some silver linings to all this. Thanks for your honesty, courage, and sharing your experiences!

    Hugs,
    Kara

  11. Dearest Julie,

    It’s Shelby. First let me say how u blessed all of us today by hearing ur sweet voice and seeing that I LOVE YOU LORD SMILE!!!!!!!! My strong sweet silent type hubby said….” I LOVE to hear and see Julie and Ryan worshipping together! That comes from a man with a big heart, a great listener, and few but profound words! AMEN SISTER!!!

    On the whole C-Section thing….. right there with ya’….let’s talk 4!!!!!!!!

    That needed a line by itself!!!!!!!!! You spoke my heart verse tonight…. 1 Thessalonians :16-18!!! OK… it’s my mantra if you will!:)

    The Lord is SOOOOOO awesome and has planned our bodies to be perfect…. and yet we do live in a fallen world! I too wanted nothing less than natural deliveries ( not gonna lie though… when drugs were needed bring them on!!!!) Carter…. 8 hours of labor after water broke…contractions ALWAYS…REALLY ALWAYS 3 minutes apart at the get go…cord wrapped around his neck 3 times…”sliced and diced and passed out while being rushed to OR….(Remember too my Daddy was an OBGYN that delivered more babies in Broward that ever will be or has been..meaning of course he documented this ALL:( on film. UCK!!!!!! AND….. GO YOU GOD….perfect child..ok…so I read and reread Dobson’s STRONG WILLED CHILD…. CC ….spent most of her pregnancy in hospital with premature labor…again … Go YOU GOD…PERFECT…yet HIS plan not mine C-Section. Mason, great pregnancy and yet he had literally ” the downunder coconuts the size of a TWO large oranges…Drs. said NO WAY girl…C- Section AGAIN!!! Then……. Lost one baby…is with the Lord and will be found by us yet again in our Savior’s mist!!!!!:):):)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Sorry… ALWAYS TUGS AT MY HEART!

    Brice scheduled for the snip-snip… and we couldn’t do it!!! GOD GAVE US DREW!!!!!!!!!!!

    Had to find a new doctor…mine said risk too high… with May they said NO MORE!!!! GOD GAVE US LIFE AGAIN!!!!! Hardest pregnancy EVER!! ALWAYS felt like I had a melon between my legs!! THANK YOU LORD FOR GIVING US PHYSICIANS WITH MINDS TO HELP AND HEAL AND TO DO YOUR WILL…EVEN WHEN THEY DON’T KNOW THEIR HANDS ARE BEING GUIDED BY THE MASTER PHYSICIAN, BUT BEING FUELED BY THE POWER OF FAITHFUL PRAYERS!!!!!

    Life is GOOD ALL THE TIME!!!!! HE GIVES LIFE and when we ACCEPT HIS GIFT,,,, LIFE IS NOW AND FOREVER PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!

    Love ya’….

    P.S> Just remember where all the “potty stops are along the way to ur kids school… the bladder gets pulled our a lot …DO UR KEGELS!!!!!!!

    XOXOXOXO

    “FOR AS HIGH AS THE HEAVENS ARE ABOVE THE EARTH,SO GREAT IS HIS LOVE FOR THOSE WHO FEAR HIM; AS FAR AS THE EAST IS FROM THE WEST, SO FAR HAS HE REMOVED OUR TRANSGRESSIONS FROM US. AS A FATHER HAS COMPASSION ON HIS CHILDREN,SO THE LORD HAS COMPASSION ON THOSE WHO FEAR HIM.” PSALM 103: 11-13

    OH HOW HE LOVES US!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  12. As a fellow mom with 2 c-sections under her belt as well, loved this post. I was so thrilled to pick #2 date as the unknown made me panicky the first time around…I turned crazy nervous and did not want my husband out of my sight those last few weeks the first time around…I’m sure I was a ton of fun. ;) precious pictures of you and your sweet newborns!

  13. WOW! Loved it. I ha two C-sections and was not planned but really all in all glad. I do understand that feeling inside that you wanted to have a natural or no surgery, but really by the second time around it was so much better and safer that I was so glad to do a C-section. I actually got my surgeon Sees candy and his staff. Great attitude and blog. God will keep us going. He knows more than us for sure.

  14. I loved your c section, your sparkly eye shadow, your wonderful family, and your amazing personality, and your very large unable to vbac beautiful child.

  15. I loved reading your list! I, too, had plans of a natural delivery. After 14 hours of labor, God’s plan prevailed, and I had my first of two C-Sections. And yes, it was freaky to hear my husband tell about my organs laying on the OR table! Ugh!

  16. Refreshing. I too had an emergency c-section the 1st time. I felt like less of a woman and a terrible mom. I felt like I failed at the most important privilege a woman gets in life. My 2nd time around I was sure I could do it. As time got closer I was so scared that everything I went through the 1st time would happen again. My Mom was starting chemo as she had just been diagnosed with small cell lung cancer… after my due date came and went I opted for a scheduled c-section. Every time I hear about a successful labor I get a bit sad at what could have been. I appreciate your honest and funny take on a serious subject. Thank you.

  17. U really do look so pretty in your pictures! I had both, 1st was vaginal ( with an epidural) then an emergency c- section with my 2nd. Ugh. I told my husband ” don’t look, do not look over the curtain.” Of course he did when our daughter started crying. I think he is still scarred from the guts on the table image! Lol. Aren’t we blessed to have our children!? Thanks for another great post:)

  18. I’d just like to say that I love reasons for loving elective c sections! I’ve had 2 and am having a 3rd in 15 days (love the exactness!) but had my first son naturally and I can tell you that it was absolutely horrific and I’d never willingly do it again, so don’t feel too hard done by! I got PTSD from it and apparently some women’s bodies just don’t work well with natural birth, and mine’s one of them, and probably so is yours, so I’m just so grateful that c sections are around and available to us or I don’t know where we’d be! I’m with you on totally embracing God’s plan for us!

  19. All births that end with a healthy mum and baby are good births.
    That is the word missing from your title and I think it adds to the hearts ache of the whole, unexpected, un wanted often emergency,c section experience. BIRTH. We still gave birth to a beautiful baby x
    ( 20 hours of induced labour then emergency c section, post traumatic stress. 8 years later after every shade of shall we sharnt we, vbac debate and many many tears and feelings of loss, planned c section birth, turned into a Pre eclamsia emergency. Still a blissful almost pain free birth)

  20. This post couldn’t come at a better time for me! I’m scheduled to be induced with my first child tomorrow & I’m extremely anxious on how it’s all going to go. This makes me breathe a little easier :) Thanks!

  21. Love this! I had c-section with my triplets, and I kinda loved that from the get-go, I didn’t have a choice, wouldn’t go through hours of labor, and complications that sometimes happen with natural births. I never even mentioned the word VBAC when I had my singleton either, don’t feel I missed out on a thing! Thank you for this post, too funny!

  22. As always, thank you for your honesty and humor! I had 3 C-sections, with a failed VBAC for number 2 that turned in to an emergency C-section. I finally realized that I did give birth to my boys no matter what. They just used the window instead of the door. :-)

  23. Four c-sections. We joke that they should have just installed a zipper like a ziplock baggie after the first one!

    In the three years between #1 and #2 we had a friend lose a baby in a failed VBAC, so it was never really an option for me to have a “trial of labor”. I wasn’t about to risk that.

    And when we were sure we were done having babies, they just disconnected my plumbing as long as they were in there getting baby #4 out. No worry of el’snip snip for DH!

  24. The one thing I regret about having my c-section is I had no pictures of me and my beautiful baby girl after delivery. The first one of us was after recovery. They had to rush me in for a c-section after being induced for almost 2 days. But I’m so glad our doctor cared enough to not take any chances. :) And C-Section babies DO have the most beautiful heads :)

  25. Love love love this Julie! As a C-section mamma X4 I totally relate! I love everything you write, but this really spoke to my heart. Thank you!!!

  26. It was difficult for me to be told that I would never deliver naturally. This came right on the heels of getting married and having to have surgery to remove a uterine fibroid. It was devastating news at first – but it was God’s perfect plan for me. It was nice to plan for our parents to be here for Abby’s birth. It was nice to tell my boss when my maternity leave would begin. It was nice to be sure I looked presentable for said pictures! And what about the catheter?! I personally enjoyed not having to get out of bed to use the restroom for 24 hours ;-) Even though I had some complications post C-section, I would do it again in a heartbeat if it meant hugging another little baby of my own.
    LOVE your blog, Julie! Keep it up. You’re the voice of many mommies out there!!
    Jenny McGahey

  27. Fabulous post, Julie. I have to tell you that vaginal deliveries are only great when you have a perfect labor and delivery. Apparently my body doesn’t believe in either of those things. lol I was always amazed at how much more quickly my friends recovered from their C-sections then I able to recover from a complicated vaginal delivery. Many of us wouldn’t choose our birthing stories, but in the end what matters most is that precious baby in our arms – a gift from God.

  28. Thank you this was a blessing. My c-section was like a death of a dream (that I never considered would die) and it has been a grieving process and has been SO hard.

    • I would encourage you to let go of this “dream” and realize what’s actually important. Do you have a baby in your arms, a growing child? There are MANY mothers who’d give anything to have any type of delivery that ended with a live child or even a child that lived beyond a couple of years. Sometimes the Lord wants us to have perspective of what’s truly important. The way our babies come into this world is not what’s important, it’s that they come into this world.

  29. You are too cute! I love everything about your writing…you are so real, so authentic, you say it as it is, and are so stinkin’ funny! Thanks for always sharing God’s word and be a Happy Light in this world! Bless you and your Happy Family! PS. I think we would be great friends if we lived closer!

  30. I agree with everything you said! My first was breech, so I didn’t have a choice. For my second, I wanted a VBAC but when I wasn’t going naturally on my own (docs wouldn’t induce with a previous c-section), baby was due on a holiday and my trusted OB was going out of the country for a week…I felt that all those obstacles were Gods way of telling me to have a repeat c-section. And although we get to forgo the pain of labor, I did not think the recovery was easy! I was the only person among my friends to have a c-section and it took me the longest to recover…I was so jealous of how quickly my friends got moving again! I had to have help getting out of bed for the first week and I couldn’t lift my firstborn when I had #2 for several weeks. A c-section is definitely not “the easy way out” like some people say…but, gosh…my kids are worth it!! I will do it again…maybe two more times!! :)

  31. You are so funny! I also had to have c-sections…3 to be exact! While there was a small part of me that wished i could give birth naturally; like you, I embrassed all the positives! I think I thought of everyone of those great reasons as well. I also felt like each c section I had, got a little easier. Maybe because I knew what to expect, or what parts (the smell of them sodering) really bothered me, or just the fact that once your nerves are damaged, you tend to feel less and less. I embrassed it all, and never felt like I missed out on a thing! It angers me a bit is when other “mothers” make you feel like you missed true motherhood, because you didn’t push something through your “woohoo”! But to them I always say ….”no matter how a baby arrives in a mothers arms, the end result is the same, unconditional love & happiness!

  32. Great job on focusing on the positives. I have had 6 c-sections, so I smiled through your list. I do say though that I wish #2 was truly a result from delivery and not just pregnancy (kind of like saggy breasts is from pregnancy and has nothing to do with actually nursing), yeah I get to experience that little special “treat”. I’m a lucky girl! LOL My last 2 babies between them and the Lord decided that the date I picked for their birthday was not right and they came sooner! Let me just say that when having a c-section as we know the biggest perk is NOT going through labor, so even a few hours of it stinks, but thankfully I never got too far in, as my dr was on top of getting things stopped and me onto the OR table.
    Although I am curious what a vaginal delivery feels like, I’m also kind of glad I’ve never had to feel that “ring of fire”! LOL

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  34. I LOVE this. These are literally all of the things I told myself when realizing I’d have a c-section! We have very similar stories and a sense of humor! I love it! Are you on fb?

  35. I’ve had two c-sections. My labor was going so bad that I was just hoping to have my sons come through it ALIVE:) My second went so bad that he did die,they resuscitated him and he spent some time in the intensive care. I now can not have kids because I ended up with an infection due to the C-section.i have had three tubal pregnancies because of it.alot of scar tissue:) now I’m 43 and I’m giving up on having children. I can’t tell you how mad the whole thing has made me.how hurt.how jealous !!! I couldn’t even get the c-section right!!! But then I realize that without it MY TWO BOYS THAT I HAVE WOULD BE DEAD. BACK IN THE NOT SO LONG AGO I WOULD HAVE DIED . That’s the thing to tell yourself. In the past MANY woman died during childbirth .now we and our babies can live:)

    • Yasha, HOLY COW. You have certainly been through it… My heart goes out to you and breaks with you for all of the pain… But I praise our mighty God for all of the victory! And for the strength He has given you to realize the good that can result from something hard, painful, and difficult. I am simply amazed that your little one was resuscitated back to life… a miracle. Wow. God bless you and thank you for sharing!

  36. Thank-you so much for this. The Lord knows that I needed this. I have struggled with the same thing. I had a Mid-Wife for my first. I did everything to get ger to come but three weeks after I couldn’t take it anymore and went it to be induced. While I was there that morning her little heart rate would drop when I was having little contractions (I didn’t even feel anything) so I had a “planned” C-Section so my Honey could be there too. Then 16 months later my son was born. He too had to be C-Setion cause they were so close. Not at all what I had planned.
    I so needed to read your story. Thank-you. I can wait to tell my little girl how wonderful her birth was. That The Lord was so good to me. (And remember we did have labor. It’s not easy having someone pull at your body. Tell that to Moms that are going on and on about “their birthing pain”. :-))

  37. Thank you for sharing your struggles with accepting your c-section………….I pretty much felt the same way. It didn’t help either when I heard “Be glad you didn’t have a “REAL” birthing experience”……….yes, I have heard that! It took me a long time to recover physically from my 3 c-sections, which in my way of thinking took the place of Labor Pain!!! I liked your 10 reasons and it made me think of my experience as a blessing from HIM. Thanks again, you have brightined my day!

    Sincerely
    Kay Matson

  38. Thank you so much for this! My OB told me that I will most likely need a c-section, and I’ve been very nervous! Reading this has given me some positives to think about, and has helped calm me down a bit! Now maybe I can think about my possible c-section like Pollyanna would!

  39. I love the idea of your blog! I spend all of my time, energy, and heart trying to have a happy home and am so glad to find support! You are an excellent example of trying to have true faith as well, and I really appreciate that!

  40. Aww this is so sweet. Just saw this post via Pinterest. I had a c-section with my first in 2010. I had all those same struggling thoughts and more afterwards. It was really hard on my faith, and I still at times struggle to put my faith back in order because of it. I’m getting there, but its slow. I love that you put this post together. Such a great way to work through it.
    C-section mommas are a really big part of my heart now and I love connecting with them.
    I actually saw your post today because I just got done writing up a post (which got me searching pinterest) and I’m really hoping this new post with help friends and family of c-section mommas to know how to better care for us as we recover emotionally.
    I hope you don’t think I’m trying to spam your blog with a link to my blog. I’m totally not. I just can’t help but link it on here after reading how many of the post-c-section thoughts we had in common.

    http://walkingwithdancers.blogspot.com/2013/10/how-to-care-for-woman-whos-had-c-section.html

    I’d love to get your input and maybe connect a bit.

  41. Hi! I just wanted to thank you for writing this piece. I have 2 boys, both of which were born via c-section. My oldest was an emergency one & my youngest was mandatory since I had already had one. Since they are only 14 months apart (Irish twins), I didn’t have the option of having a VBAC.

    I have been struggling with some serious self-esteem & self-image issues ever since that day & have been trying very hard to act like it doesn’t bother me, but it does… I don’t talk about it with anyone but my husband because I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me or think I am weird for still feeling so bad about it after so long (my boys are 22 & 8 months respectively).

    I also have a blog and have tried on multiple times to write about it, but can’t seem to find the strength to do it. Every single time I start typing, I just start crying. I want to release this tension but, for whatever reason, can’t seem to break out of it.

    I was just trying one more time to write about it to find some therapeutic release. And, while I was looking for some funny images to attach to the post, I came across your blog. Thank you for being so brave & so honest about those feelings you have/had. I can 100% relate & I am glad (even if it makes me seem like a total jerk LOL) that someone else has/had those same feelings since all of my friends have had vaginal deliveries & I am the only one with a c-section. I feel as though (FINALLY!) I am not alone in this world & feeling like this doesn’t make me a horrible person ☺

    Once again, thank you for your kindness, honesty, and fierceness. It has opened up a whole other world for me and completely inspired me to open up about my “issue”.

    Lots of love & light to you!! ♥

    • Elizabeth, you are NOT along. The emotional pain, I have found, hurts less. My children are teens. I rarely think of the fact they were born via c-section any more. It does hurt when my sister, younger by ten years, is having perfect deliveries, but I look at my children and I am thankful they are here and healthy.

      It still hurts sometimes. I want to reassure you, you are not alone. Time is a wonderful healer and giver of perspective.

      May you be richly blessed as you watch your children grow.

  42. Your comments and reasons are funny. I understand the pain of defeat when one has a c-section and you don’t have a ‘story’. I think more women should share about having c-sections because then we wouldn’t feel failure.

    My husband reassured me often that I gave him exactly what he had wanted and prayed for, a healthy baby and a healthy wife. That was consolation to a point.

    My two c-sections were not planned. I had the unexpected breaking if water with one delivery, I did not pick their birthdays, I had a day of labour with each child and with one I was so exhausted at the end, I couldn’t hold my head up.

    They are both teens now. I think often of their arrivals: one’s head was squished against my pelvic bone, the other had the cord wrapped around their next a few times, both my children are here. Despite my pride. God has made c-sections possible, He has granted wisdom to doctors, and resources to us living in North America. I am thankful to him for these things.

    Ladies, our bodies do strange and wondrous things, because God created us this way. I hope you were encouraged by this lady’s post. You have babies, perhaps delivered by c-section, but certainly knitted together by the Almighty and powerful Creator God.

  43. My husband and I will be having out twin future warriors for the Kingdom on Dec 27. Twin A had been breech since somewherr around 30 weeks. The nurse called yesterday with the details of the planned c-section yesterday. I cried the entire way home, then in the arms of my husband, then the whole time I read Hebrews 12 and then some more. I understand that my plan was a thick disguise for the pride that was, and still is, in my heart. Here is what The Lord has shown me and I am certain confirms with this post: I have done absolutely nothing to deserve or in any way merit the blessings of two babies that He has given me. I wanted to labor as if I could earn them. They aren’t mine to begin with but are the Lord’s. other posts say that you still work for your babies in a c section but even though we call it labor, we still never merit the blessings of children. They are only a gift not a wage! And they aren’t ours but His!

  44. Thank you for your post! I am getting ready to have my third c-section and am starting to get really nervous. My second one was a horribly painful experience and so I m slightly scared to death. Reading your positive side to everything was uplifting and so thank you! :)

  45. Just found your post on Pinterest and am less than 4 weeks from my third c/s. First was unplanned after two days of induction not working. I was devastated, but had an amazing recovery and couldn’t have really asked for a better after experience. The second was a planned vbac that didn’t work out as planned and again, my heart was crushed. This time around, I am all ready for the planned moment of my Squishy’s birth. Thank you for sharing your experiences and laying out all the insights for all to read. You are so true to the word with all of them.

  46. I love this so very much!! I have had four c-sections with my fab four and only two ended up having a birthday date planned (1st one not planned and the one made his own entry date-friday the 13th!) I so wanted to have a natural birth but looking back I would not have it any other way! I felt that I was missing a piece when they were brought to me already wrapped and covered with my first two that on my third my dr. gave me the greatest gift.. I got to see my only girl come out! Everything was covered so we didnt freak out :) and took what I call the best pictures ever of my “messy” girl..I wish all dr’s would be a little flexable and make special memories for us c-section moms! I always tell other moms to be flexible with their birth plans and open..it makes for a much better experience all around!! I look forward to more of your fabulous writings!!

  47. I am sitting here waiting for my second c-section and want to say thank you for this encouraging post. I have some of the same thoughts as you and am trying to make this as pleasant as possible.

  48. i love your post. I have had 3 c-sections, first one was an emergency. I can totally relate to your reasons for lovin it!!!. Once i caught my husband bragging to other men about how c-sections didn’t mess up his playground…. too funny. I’m glad you found peace with your situation. People can be very insensitive about your feelings. A lady i worked with told me she loved. her kids more than i loved mine because she had to push them out…birth is a miracle one way or the other. I prefer the beautiful babies that arrive c-s

  49. I want to be your friend! I have felt the exact same way over the last 2 years since my bouncing baby boy was born. My fervent desire to have my baby naturally was ever present throughout my pregnancy; however, God chose another path in order to save both my life and our little guy:) When the time came to take off all my jewelry and for my husband to change into surgical scrubs- it came with a heavy heart and lots of tears. I am supremely thankful today and am happy see to the brighter side of life including other ladies stories with the same heart and desire as myself:) thank you for sharing, and I am sure that I will read this again being that we are trying for number 2- how soon we forget!

  50. Thank you so much for your blog!
    I had an emergency c-section almost 7
    Months ago. I too wanted an all
    Natural birth. I prepared for it my whole
    Pregnancy, and I didn’t care if I pooped
    On the table.. Or that it would be
    Painful. I am so thankful to know that
    There are many c-section mommies
    That feel the same way. We are giving
    Birth to our babies too!

  51. Thank you for this! I am having my 3rd c-section in a week (the first scheduled) and still struggle with it. I just hate when people seem to judge me right off for something I have no control over. I tried to have my babies vaginally twice and failed miserably twice. I cannot help it. 3 cm ain’t gonna cut it. People walk around their 8th month of pregnancy closer to birth than I can get with 20 hours of labor and pitocin. This is how I get my babies here safely. I feel brave for doing so. Surgery freaks me out. I totally agree that there is a higher power and His will be done. This is the way it goes for me and my babies and it’s ok.

  52. I found your blog today and enjoy your optimistic, sweet attitude so much! I really struggled with my c-sections, too. I had my first in November 2009 and did not get any pictures until my son was 24 hours old because it was an emergency c-section and things were crazy. I really tried to embrace it the 2nd time around, but it is still hard to accept sometimes. Thanks for sharing your story and reminding me of the silver lining and that we definitely must leave it in God’s capable hands!

  53. This is so great! I struggled with my first c-section, but then knowing I couldn’t have a VBAC for my second (12 months later) made the birthing experience even more frustrating and hard to deal with. But I am so thankful for the ways that God has used my story to encourage other mommas.

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