Fifty Shades of Grey – have you heard of it?
When the book originally came out I didn’t pay much attention on purpose. I knew that it wasn’t something that I wanted to set before my eyes (Psalm 101:3).
But now with a movie making its debut, I am completely sobered by just how accessible and appealing this content is to so many.
Christian women included.
There are lots of reasons why this movie and book is harmful – dangerous, even – for you (Sheila from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum wrote a great post about it HERE and Thriving Home shared an incredible article called Can 50 Shades of Grey Enhance Your Sex Life? HERE), but when considering participating in things that our world wildly celebrates, I think it all boils down to asking ourselves a couple of questions…
Is engaging with this kind of material going to draw me closer to Jesus? Is it going to make me look more like Him to others (my spouse included)?
I remember a few years ago I was reading a series of books written by a popular Christian author (yes, Christian). Every storyline involved some sort of radical trial that the main character(s) would suffer (like murder, AIDS, rape, a child’s near drowning). The stories also portrayed marriage in such a way that seemed unrealistic and fairy tale-ish at times. But I was so drawn to these books and couldn’t put them down. It was like an escape for me.
I got so wrapped up in these books that I would find myself INTERCEDING IN PRAYER for the FICTIONAL characters throughout the day!
It was CUH-RAY-ZEE.
However, it didn’t even stop there. The more I read, the more I was consumed with anxiety that horrible things were going to happen to me (as they did to characters in the stories) and I became discontent in my relationship with my husband because I compared him to the male heroes in my books.
After awhile I finally listened to the Holy Spirit and removed all of the books from my home because they just weren’t helping me with the ultimate goal –
BECOMING MORE LIKE JESUS.
It sounds like a lame example as there weren’t any whips or graphic bedroom scenes in these stories, but I believe my struggle was similar to the woman reading/watching Fifty Shade of Grey. Our own brokenness/flesh/weakness causes us to easily be disillusioned to what is REAL LIFE and what is GOD’S TRUTH.
God’s Word is full of verses that speak to protect us from things that will ultimately enslave us/lead us into bondage (like that fear I was all tangled up in and the critical eye I was dishing out on the hubs). It even encourages us to fill our minds with only the things that are excellent, pure, lovely, admirable, and right (Philippians 4:8). And the Gospel continually sets forth a message of self-sacrificing love that is unconditional, patient, and kind (Philippians 2:3-11).
Often things that aren’t of the Lord typically FEEL really good for a MOMENT, but in the end they will leave you with that never-satisfied hunger for more. You will find that the momentary pleasure or arousal of a glamorized Hollywood movie will really, when it fades, just make you more aware of the emptiness that we suffer apart from Christ.
Because Christ provides everything we need for a life of joy and love and intimacy so much greater than you could ever read about in a book (other than the Bible) or see on the big screen (read Song of Solomon if you don’t believe me).
So, sweet ladies, this Valentine’s Day weekend, I encourage you to not go see this movie.
Instead, do one of THESE ideas with your husband. Leave him THESE notes. Send him one of THESE flirty texts. God created us for intimacy that is fun and sexy and pure and reflective of His unfailing love for you.
But ultimately, let’s be women who make JESUS the One that captures our hearts, our desires, and our imagination every day in this crazy, down-spiraling world.
And I can tell you with certainty that His kind of love does not include a necktie.
“For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light! For this light within you produces only what is good and right and true. Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them.” Ephesians 5:8-11
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Julie Brasington is wife of a worship pastor, a preschool teacher, and the creator of Happy Home Fairy, a popular blog focusing on encouraging and equipping moms to choose joy and Jesus on the parenting journey. She shares easy craft ideas, printables, simple recipes, holiday fun, thoughts on raising her 2 awesome boys, trusting God in the midst of poop blow-outs and toddler tantrums, and figuring out if serving scrambled eggs for dinner 4 nights in a row is an acceptable meal plan. Follow her on Facebook HERE, Twitter HERE, and Instagram HERE.