The Happy Buddy is 15 months old. We were out running errands a few weeks ago and ended up walking past a very spooky (we’re talking I almost wet my pants spooky – and I’m sure glad the Happy Buddy is still in diapers because I’m pretty sure he wet his pants, too) display in a store. I immediately wanted to cover the Happy Buddy’s eyes and protect his sweet innocence from viewing something so horrifying.
And it was in that very moment I realized that I needed some prayer and some research to figure out how exactly our Happy Home is going to handle Halloween. I needed to get some arrows to put in my Mommy Quiver so that when the Happy Buddy gets big enough to start asking questions about the things he sees during the month of October, I’ll be ready.
Question – Is Halloween Satan’s Day?
Psalm 118:24 says, “This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it!” I don’t think October 31st belongs to anyone. It’s just another day for us, as Christians, to glorify God with our lives. Ephesians 5:15-16 says. “Be careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity…” Every day is an opportunity to share God with the world. We also must, however, be careful how we live – not unwisely conforming to the culture (Romans 12:2), but shining the light that we have before men (Matthew 5:16). Be a light in a dark world!
Question – What do I tell my kids when we go out and see all kinds of gruesome costumes/decorations?
I think it’s important to give our kids information. When you’re out and about and you see something scary, educate your child. They should know that Halloween is a day that some use to celebrate evil. Researching the history of Halloween together and then dialoguing about God’s plan for your family in the midst of this season is a way to create strong family ties as well as a foundation of truth upon which your child can build his/her confidence.
Dr. Bob Barnes of Sheridan House Family Ministries encourages parents to use God’s Word to help! 1 Peter 3:11 says, “Turn from evil and do good.” Have a conversation asking, “What are some evil things we should turn away from and what are some good things we should turn toward?”
Question – Should my child dress up?
I LOVE to dress up. I often wear sparkly fairy wings and princess crowns around our house just for fun. I am not even kidding about this – just ask the Happy Hubby. I think dressing up is a way to use the imagination that God has given us! When I was growing up, Halloween was such an exciting opportunity to create and dream! I have a hard time saying that this is wrong. But I think as a mom I will closely monitor my child’s costume choices. Look to Philippians 4:8 for guidance. When assessing a costume, have your child evaluate, “Is this costume choice right, pure, lovely, admirable, true, noble, excellent, and praiseworthy?” The Bible tells us to think about these things, so I think it’s appropriate to apply our thoughts to our actions.
Check out this post for some really cute Bible Costume Ideas!!
Question – How should I decorate my home in October?
This was a tough one for me! There are some pretty cute Halloween decorations out there. But as I sought the Lord about how to fill my home with October Magic, I found this verse – “Test everything. Hold on to the good. Avoid every kind of evil.” 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22. This year I am going through all of my decorations and I am testing it by God’s standard – does this decoration celebrate life or death? Because as a believer, Christ died so that I might live! Death has lost it’s sting! I have the privilege to celebrate life and victory and so I want my home to reflect that (think happy pumpkins, fall leaves, cinnamon brooms, etc.). Plus, I don’t want to send a mixed message to the Happy Buddy. If he sees me decorating our home with cupcake witches – although cute, I admit! – do I really want to volunteer a conversation about witches and the very real and evil things that exist in that world because I brought it into our home? Hold on to the good. Avoid every kind of evil.
Question – What about Trick or Treating?
If your family wants to go out, find a church that provides an event for kids! Many churches do Trunk-or-Treats, Pumpkin Paloozas, or Harvest Festivals. These are safe and super fun options for families!
If your family decides to stay home on Halloween, I love the idea of creating a warm and welcoming atmosphere for others to experience when they come knocking at your door. Having fun as a family naturally displays the glorious love that you have in Christ. Try to engage your neighbors in conversation when they drop by for a treat. The world is at your door, make the most of it! Why not put stickers on your candy pieces that say, “Jesus Loves You”? I found these cute ones that you can print for free! All you need are some Avery Address Labels, or simply print, cut out and attach to mini candy bars with tape! Find the witnessing stickers here.
I think that as the Happy Buddy grows, it will be so fun to have a Family Night together, listen to praise music, drink hot apple cider, and spend time sticker-ing our Halloween candy. What a way to keep Jesus at the center of your family’s activities and build anticipation of sharing His Light and Love with the community!
Question – What about other families, even Christian ones, that choose to celebrate Halloween differently than mine?
Moms, let me encourage you with this.
Please do not judge another mom. Whatever your convictions about Halloween, live them out for God’s glory! But also understand that Christians may differ in their beliefs about the issue. Maybe one of your Christian mom friends chooses not to do anything at all and their family turns out all the lights and refuses to even say the word Halloween. You don’t know what in her life might have led her to this point of view. Or maybe another mom friend decorates with all manner of spookiness and lets her kids get the scariest costumes. You do not know where that mom has been in her life. Show grace by understanding that the Lord is all about doing things in His timing and in His special way. Let them freely live out their convictions and keep your own convictions between you and God and your family. And if your child asks, “Well, how come so-and-so gets to dress scary?” Respond, “Child, God’s taking care of that family just as He is ours. Let’s just worry about what He has called our family to be obedient in this season.”
Is there a right or wrong answer about how a person celebrates October 31st? I think the only way to know is to seek the Lord on your own about it. He’ll show you the way for you and your Happy Home.
“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go.” Psalm 32:8