I mentioned HERE that the hubs and I had an opportunity to visit the Bahamas on a staff retreat with his work.
To say I was excited about going is an understatement.
5 days without kids?! 5 days not being needed to wipe bottoms, tie shoes, and pack lunches?
Ummm, when do we leave?!
But to say I was apprehensive about wearing a bathing suit in front of people (PEOPLE I KNOW) is an understatement.
Words like horrified, disheartened, aghast and other synonyms I searched for under the word AFRAID were what I was feeling instead.
So I knew I had to try to figure out a realistic way to get my body into some kind of non-scary state for the beach.
And, for me, it all boiled down to one super simple tip.
Are you ready to get ready for your swimsuit – you hot mama, you?
Here’s what you need to do –
STOP EATING AFTER DINNER.
That’s it.
No 100 crunches or 400 planks or 50,000 Russian twists or 10 million squats or 9 trillion butt lifts (although these can be helpful if you’re into sweating).
No P90Xing or T25ing or Insanity-ing or listening to Jillian yell at you for 30 minutes 10 times a day (also helpful if you like torturing yourself).
Just stop eating after dinner.
I sat down one day and asked the Lord why I was so afraid of my own body and He quietly revealed to me that a lot of my body image issues were stemming from an area in my life that I had yet to fully surrender to Him.
This area called overeating at night.
As the Lord shed light on my sin, I realized just how much peace I was losing over this.
Because I could be solidly disciplined in my 3 meals a day plus one afternoon snack (usually THIS), but as soon as those adorable children had their last drink of water and potty run and the circle of emotional support stuffed animals were in place, my craving to munch kicked in.
I worked hard all day long chasing around 2 monkeys.
I deserved something delicious.
I deserved an opportunity to eat copious amounts of crunchy things.
Yes, I could sit down with a bag of trail mix or granola or ice cream and before I knew it, be staring at the bottom of the package.
Then I would go to bed bloated and wake up angry.
And still bloated.
Then the whole cycle would repeat.
I knew I was holding onto about 5 extra pounds because of this nonsense and it was wrecking the way I felt about myself.
Then Lent happened and I thought, “Hey, if Jesus can NOT EAT AT ALL for 40 days, I can fast from eating after dinner for 40 days.”
Let me just say, I have a whole new appreciation for people who experience withdrawal from an addiction.
There were many nights where the hubs had to hold me back from chewing a hole through his shirt – like I was some kind of a rabid animal or something.
My teeth have never been cleaner because I probably brushed them 10,000 times as a distraction technique.
Sometimes we would finish dinner at 8 pm and I would go to bed at 8:01 – just to avoid the temptation.
Somewhere along the way, though, all the little tricks above began to give way to a genuine desire to obey God.
I looked to my greatest example and inspiration – thinking about how HARD it must have been for Jesus to sacrifice as He did in the desert for those 40 days.
But He found His refuge and power in something far greater than the feeling of sinking your teeth into a square (or 4 or 5) of dark chocolate.
I memorized Psalm 34:8 and stood before my evil pantry saying,
“Taste and see that THE LORD is good!”
The LORD.
Not granola.
Because when you’re trying to kick a habit like finding comfort in food, you’ve got to find your strength and satisfaction in the One who is absolutely and totally enough.
The physical results of this challenge became secondary as I grew closer with Christ and let Him become my after dinner craving.
🙂
Do I do this perfectly every single night?
Nope.
The hubs and I still like to have late night ice cream parties every once in awhile where we clink our spoons together and celebrate the fact that we survived another day of parenthood.
The difference is now I am trying to be more conscious of how much ice cream I eat and my heart behind each bite.
Is this your story, too?
Try my little trick for a few weeks and let me know how you feel.
Then go get that bathing suit on, girl.
I’ll meet you by the water’s edge and we can celebrate our rockin’ beach bodies (well, as rockin’ as they get after bearing a couple of kids and dealing with things like um, gravity) by eating a properly portioned piece of chocolate before dinner.
– Julie
“Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NLT)
**Do you struggle with weight and eating issues? HERE and HERE are the books that were incredibly helpful for me.**
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Thank you!!! I feel like you wrote this for me. Going to stop eatin after dinner and also check out the books you suggested! ☺️☺️
-Ashley Nelson
Happy Home Fairy
Ashley, you’re so amazing. I love your open and teachable spirit! You go, girl!
Juanita in OH.
Oh, Julie, this is so profound to me. Because I spend most of my life in a Jazzy chair or a bed my weight has gone from overweight to “gross obesity”. I am going to do this. Thank you, thank you, thank you for this absolute blessing for today.
Happy Home Fairy
Juanita, I’m so proud of you, girl. I will pray for you and for God to bless you with strength and complete and total dependence on Him with your situation! I love your desire to honor Him with this!!! He is glorified by that!!! xoxo
Lucina
I thought i was going to read the comments and see a lot of people writing how great you look in your bathing suit! But since I didnt find that, I’ll be the first to say it. You look great!
Happy Home Fairy
Lucina, THANK YOU. You just filled up my heart so much!!! xoxo
Elisha
Thank you! I needed this!
Happy Home Fairy
Elisha! You’re awesome, girl!
Nikki
Man I needed this today as it’s Memorial Day weekend and I wouldn’t even get in the pool for fear of “the suit.” And to top it off I’m on week three of T25. Lol. Definitely looking into your book suggestions and going to give this one to God. I do with everything else, why not food temptation? Silly me. Thank you!!
Happy Home Fairy
Nikki – love your heart. Blessings to you, sweet mama!!!
Jamee
You look great!!! Thanks for this post!
Happy Home Fairy
Thanks, Jamee. Your comment made my day!
Erin
I’ve never commented before, but this spoke to me so much. I lost almost all of my baby weight last summer after my first baby, but gained a few pounds back due to some mild PPD and anxiety over her being such a bad sleeper for so long. I would snack at night after she went to bed and fell into this habit of overeating and feeling bloated all the time. I was so happy with my body before getting pregnant, and I’m up just enough to feel bad about myself. I decided to take on your challenge for the month of June, make it a habit, learn to rely on God, and hopefully take off 5 pounds! I hope that I can soon get in a bathing suit and have the confidence you show in that picture!
Happy Home Fairy
Precious Erin! Your comment is so inspiring! I love hearing your obedience and teachable spirit through your humble words. I KNOW He will bless you in this! Hang in there, sister!!! We will go to the beach together in July, ok? 🙂
melissa
I read this for the first time when you first posted it…tonight while scrolling threw pinterest I saw this blog post…kinda snickered because I loved it the first time I read it…so lets read it again…laughed just as much!! Your sooooo adorable!! 🙂 I accepted your challenge…and I have really done good with it!! (I’m not going to lie I did attend Larys Ice creams fundraiser this week for “Turtle Power for James Edwards” BUT I kept it small and shared with my 1 year old…lol) I’ve lost about 3 lbs so far…your a GENIUS!!! ( my goal was 5lbs by 4th of july…it could happen!!!)
Happy Home Fairy
Melissa – I LOVE YOU! And I loved this comment! You GO GIRL! Write to me when you lose those last 2 pounds. I am so proud of you!